Anonymous said: I don't mean I actually went out with someone. Only said I have a crush on them without them ever really knowing. My parents are super supportive but I know it's because they've never had a gay child.
Wait, my apologies! I completely misread the question. Now I understand what you meant. Well, I guess that’s very different from actually going out with someone. In fact, I would say it’s smart if you need a coverup to stay safe. As long as rumors don’t run loose, you’ll be fine.
And I completely understand what you mean about your parents being supportive. Mine were the same way, until they found out they had a gay child. It does change everything for them, but look at it from a different point of view. I assume, like many, that you did not immediately accept yourself as gay over the years. It’s the same for friends and family. If you want to come out, just make sure you have a plan b before coming out. But in any case, if you do come out, just know that you’ll have to give a lot of people time to come through.
Anonymous said: So, it happened suddenly. I guess on some level I always knew, but kind of went along with what is perceived to be normal. Picking a random girl out of hundreds at my school to say I have a crush on, when I'm actually crushing over one of my best friends. Let me start this next part by saying I'm in NO way ashamed of who I am. I just have issues with the public eye. No one but my friends know. I'm afraid to tell my parents because I'm scared they won't look at me the same way. What do I do?
First of all, going out with someone as a coverup is dishonest. Not trying to make you feel bad or anything, but how would you like it if someone pretended to like you in order to put on a show? If I were you, I’d end it here.
As for coming out, don’t feel pressured to do so. Only time will tell when that moment is right. However, that doesn’t mean that you should go deceiving others by pretending to be in a straight relationship…that will only hurt the other person. Only come out when you feel it’s time. I don’t recommend doing so if you fear retaliation from family and friends. That would be an awful situation to be in. Evaluate the situation at hand and make sure that you do the right thing. Good luck!
Anonymous said: RESPOND ASAP!!! K so turns out someone who I suspect is in the closet is willing to do one of those "anonymous texting for five days" things. When we hang out I have noticed he is very friendly with me, so I'm at least interested in becoming better friends if things don't "work out". I'm currently in the closet too. So should I just text anonymously for five days and see where this takes us. I mean he might not even be gay... So idk. Yolo it? And just see what happens?
I hope it’s still not too late to answer your question. I’m not really sure what you mean with the five day texting thing. But if you don’t know someone too well, I would recommend taking things a bit slow. Take it from me—I’ve jumped to conclusions several times thinking that someone was gay. Become friends with him first before leading him on. But if there are strong reasons that you think he may be gay, go for it. Otherwise, get to know him better before jumping to conclusions. Don’t be blinded by his friendliness. Let me know how things go though! I wish you the best of luck.
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Anonymous said: Pt5 I'm just over all scared. Like what if I'm bi but only show for women and never have a thing with a guy down the road. Do I still tell everyone that "hey, I'm gay" asap or just hold onto it the fact until I'm like kissing some dude on a beach during a sunset or heading out for some romantic dinner?? I know that's a lot of info and I'm sorry for that. Just looking for some help for my very frustrating "situation"
Hi there! Thanks for messaging me. I’m more than happy to help. From what I understand, you are bi but aren’t sure if you want to identify as gay? Are you not sure yet? If that’s the case, I wouldn’t worry too much about labels. You can identify yourself as you want, but don’t ever force yourself to have to label yourself. Sexuality fluctuates. It’s happened to me before. As for coming out to your family, you first need to examine the situation at hand, which you have been doing. From what it looks like, most of your family is okay with you being gay. However, make sure that you have a plan b in case things don’t turn out the way you want them to. I never encourage people to come out if they don’t have a plan b or if they don’t have an accepting family.
As for the dating scene, date who you want! Be happy! I wish you the best of luck. I hope I answered your question. Feel free to message me whenever…I’m here for you :)